Signs of Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is a hidden type of abuse. It has a way of creeping up on you and loudly lurking in a dark corner of your relationship.
Its signs can be confusing. You may find yourself questioning if what you’ve been dealing with is all in your mind or if you are being “overly sensitive” or “overanalyzing”.
This list will give you a clear overview of some of the not so obvious signs of emotionally abusive behaviors.
Giving you the silent treatment
Withholding affection to embarrass and/or punish you
Feeling as if you are “walking on eggshells”—- constantly finding yourself carefully choosing your words and behaviors so not to “upset” them.
Accusatory speech—- “Who was he, where do you know him from? Why did he hug you? I saw how you were looking at him, don’t lie to me!”
Directing mean jokes to you or constantly making fun of you to make you feel devalued
Your feelings are not acknowledged
Being cursed at
Threatening physical harm
Demeaning you in front of friends, family, or others
Using sarcasm or mocking tones
Laughing at you
Excessive cheating (more than once)
Raising their voice to intimidate you
Intimidating body language—giving you disapproving or scornful looks
Making subtle threats or negative remarks with the intent to frighten or control you
Blatantly disrespecting you, then accusing you of being “too sensitive” or “insecure”
Name calling— speaking to you in a way that is disguised as “teasing” or using pet names in a demeaning way to make you feel inferior.
Losing their temper and then blaming you for their actions and behavior
Isolating you from special events and friends and family
Starting rumors to negatively affect your reputation
Trivializing— “What are you talking about? You make zero sense. You sound crazy right now! You don’t listen!”
Circular arguments— subtly administering punishment or revenge towards you by bringing up unresolved past issues to start an argument
Your direct questions are ignored and they walk away without answering you or saying they “don’t have time for this.”
When you are made to feel confused, have self-doubt, and question your sanity— when your perception of reality is constantly being twisted.
In conversations, your thoughts and feelings are dismissed while you are constantly interrupted while trying to make your point.
Refusing to communicate or cooperate. Deliberately distancing themselves from you, avoiding contact and engagement with you as a form of punishment and control for them to appear more mature or rational than you.
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